Some people’s blameless lives are to blame for a good deal-

May this post serve as a fertile metaphor for rediscovering our basic goodness

For us to recognize and acknowledge our basic goodness we need to first peel away the layers of “whatever” it is that hides us from our true selves.

The first layer to peel away, which I have picked at many of times, is developing and nurturing a certain sense of self-compassion. Self-compassion (for me) comes from an understanding of what I am actually feeling in any given moment: Anxiety, Fear, Pride, Having a Pity Party  Understanding my motivation(s) is integral to moving from an attitude of sadness to one of happiness.

Daily Meditation:

We create our prison, yet we also hold the key.

Something to ponder this week.

CultFit Positive

Auot Pilot

For after all, the best thing one can do when it is raining is let it rain-

The single most important practice we can cultivate is gentleness towards ourselves. Yes, even more important than a regular yoga practice, healthy eating habits and “exercise“. Cultivating gentleness is especially important when we discover, once again, that we have tripped and fallen, head first, into a pattern of reaction instead of making well thought out choice(s). Sadly, we are more likely to react to prior injuries rearing their ugly head once again, falling off the diet train and sitting on the couch marinating in self-pity. By constantly putting the blame back on ourselves, we fail to open our warm beating hearts to our own human fallibility, accepting exactly where we are in this amazing world.

As part of this comforting engagement with ourselves, we tap into our curiosity and try to formulate reasons as to why our energy is drawn to placing blame. Why do we place such importance on blame, especially given that placing blame is against so many other values we are trying to develop?

What we discover today, this weekend maybe, can help us dampen the blame we throw towards ourselves.


Blaming ourselves and others is re-markedly easy, gravitating towards acceptance on the other hand? Is not.

A few of the posts next week will be about me, the humble dude that writes this blog-o-thing. I have been reluctant to do this for many reasons, the most important of which is: I loathe talking about myself, its boring and dreadful. But, for the sake of where these posts originate I fell its important to give you some context. Be well this weekend and please take care!

CultFit Shine

Lost in Translation

Some people’s blameless lives are to blame for a good deal-

Self-blame is pernicious. Self-blame amplifies our perceived inadequacies, the weight we gained over the weekend, coming up short during our last marathon. Whether real or imagined, self-blame paralyzes us before we can even begin to step away from the mirror this morning.

Up until the point you decided to open your email and read this post, we have been taught to extend loving-kindness to others. Although we often fail in first extending loving-kindness to ourselves.

The most significant factor contributing to our tired system of self-blame is our failure to recognize our own humanity. From the day we were born, you, me (maybe) are perfect beings. Let’s think about this for a minute … You alone are enough. However, we are very much human beings: Perfect in spirit, yet as we age and experience the word around us, we often dwell in the illusion of our perfectionism, our need to constantly be right and improve on what already was perfect.

When either we or the world we create around us does not live up to our “dreamt up ideal“? We often take on fault and responsibility that is not ours to own or bear. Our failure to recognize the balance of responsibility in any given situation leads us into the trap of misappropriating this responsibility, which can quickly devolve into self-blame.

When we arrive at a point of self-realization, one that allows us to be our true selves, imperfection is no longer an obstacle, imperfection is an opportunity. We only need to open our eyes, our hearts, our spirit to it.


If you walk away from reading today, please – please take note that recognizing you are perfect, just the way you are and that perfection is stunningly imperfect in nature. Matter of fact, perfection is a downright mess, a beautiful mess. Just like your hair when you roll out of bed in the morning.

CultFit Heart