The Widow’s Lament in Springtime

Sorrow is my own yard
where the new grass
flames as it has flamed
often before but not
with the cold fire
that closes round me this year.
Thirtyfive years
I lived with my husband.
The plumtree is white today
with masses of flowers.
Masses of flowers
load the cherry branches
and color some bushes
yellow and some red
but the grief in my heart
is stronger than they
for though they were my joy
formerly, today I notice them
and turn away forgetting.
Today my son told me
that in the meadows,
at the edge of the heavy woods
in the distance, he saw
trees of white flowers.
I feel that I would like
to go there
and fall into those flowers
and sink into the marsh near them.

– William Carlos Williams

CultFit Shine

Are You Married to Your Program?!?

Let this be a lesson to you.  Never do tequila shooters within a country mile of a wedding chapel-

We are currently swimming in an era of social change and marital unrest.   We have grown accustomed to making harsh, thoughtless decisions when we commit to a new program.  We live in a culture that looks “beyond”  the norm, constantly looking for the latest and greatest.  We all aspire in one way or another to build a stable enduring program…Yet we are not in love with the “now”…We are in love with the “next”.

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The aspect that we want to explore with you is of bonding, and creating a lasting union between you and your chosen program.  When we declare and say our vows we are making a promise to ourselves not only in this beautiful moment, but for the future as well.

Let us walk hand in hand into the  spiritual realm of marriage where two souls, hearts become one.  Is it this romantic-passion aspect that is leading you to the altar? A longing for and finding your true self?  Otherwise, in this era, when there are fewer people working out, moving about and  living life to its fullest each and every day.  We live in a society where sitting on your mom’s couch all day is the norm, and where there are yummy little temptations at every turn.  Why is it then that simply committing to bettering yourself is lost on so many people?   Embrace the idea of becoming exclusive in your bond and understand that outside temptations rip the fabric from this delicate relationship.  These outside fitness trends temporarily, dare we say permanently?  Undermine your’ sense of personal identity.

This goes much deeper than the promise-breaking, the deception you show towards yourself.  The breaking of the bond itself, that is the devastating blow to marriage.  You deserve to treat yourself better!


Find the one item in your life that you truly are passionate about.  Be it slimming up, avoiding injury, heading off health risks?  Make your bond profound and heart-felt, one that is not easily broken or swayed by current trends.

Marriage is not an institution to ENDURE, rather it is one to nurture, cherish and love.  Look for the strength within you, not the weakness.