Hard to : Resit :
Posted: April 30, 2014 Filed under: Meditation, Yoga | Tags: blogging, change, compassion, crossfit, cycling, exercise, family, fitness, free range, freshly pressed, friends, gluten free, health, hipster, kettlebell, kindness, life, love, lululemon, marathon, meditation, motivation, National Bike Challenge, natural, nature, Omaha, Omaha Commuter Challenge, passion, pilates, Power Yoga, running, trail running, yoga 6 CommentsEveryone thinks of changing the world, but no one thinks of changing himself-
A quick show of hands: Have you ever held onto the belief that you could change someone else’s behavior, if you were persistent and dedicated enough?
I witness this quite often with friends going to yoga class, working out together and the awesome folks I help out. Sadly, I have arrived at the conclusion that people only change when it’s rewarding for them to do so, and when they’re capable of it.
Rewarding and Capable – Interesting.
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Daily Meditation:
I have lived many years shrouded in the fallacy that “peer” pressure, being a “caring” friend pressure, will make those close to me change. I’m writing this morning to share with you these following thoughts – People only change when they’re ready to. If I want my friend to change, I have to figure out how they would be motivated to change, how change would benefit them.
On the subject of motivation and change – I offer up to you these two links. Have a beautiful day, and please take care!
CultFit 
So very true. I lived the lie for 18 years (more probably) until my divorce when I finally realize that he could not change because he did not want to change. What I thought was change was a facade to placate me. I forced him to live a lie and we were both miserable. I am now living a dream with someone whose being I embrace en toto. And vice versa. We couldn’t be happier. :-).
Have I shared with you recently how awesome the two of you are? And not like, run of the mill awesome – Completely and totally awesome!
🙂 Too kind! We are counting down, less than 24 hours til green chile (new mexico). WOOT!
I have seen this in myself, in my friends and family and also professionally in my healing practice. Some people would come for 1 session and get numerous shifts in their lives. Others would come over and over and not seem to shift at all.
Even the things I’ve worked on shifting/healing within myself…some have healed and changed immediately, other things I have just now been able to heal after working on it for over 40 years. I think that in addition to motivation, some things are waiting for a specific time in someone’s life or specific time on the planet.
Change tends to happen in layers and sometimes you can’t get to X until you have healed or cleared M.
Just think how much the world would change if we all concentrated on what we could change within us? Even though I understand and believe what you say it’s a struggle when I see people I care for deeply hurting themselves when it’s preventable. I suppose it’s accepting where you end and the other begins. Very thoughtful post thanks.
The world would truly be a pretty cool place to be when we stop to concentrate on what we could and can change within us … The world is still amazing, although we can all do our part to make it a little bit more harmonious,and dare I say happier. 🙂