Crummy Stuff

There’s a lot of difference between listening and hearing-

When was the last time you engaged in a conversation in which you truly listened to the other person, sat eye to eye, connected?

People today are so pre-occupied with their own thoughts, bursting in their lululemon seams to interject with a story of their own, simply too distracted, disinterested that their eyes are searching everywhere but in your eyes.

Did you see what she is wearing … Didn’t mean to interrupt, what were you talking about again?

This sort of “thing” happens all too much. One of the most simple gifts to present to someone is to be there with them completely, with focus, with intent.


Listen, attentively without interrupting, take in perspective, allow others to express themselves. Remove yourself, step back and listen.

**Anne is trotting around the streets of Boston right about now sporting Bib #21069. Check out the Boston Marathon website to track her real-time race results.**

CultFit Bear

8 Comments on “Crummy Stuff”

  1. Sandra says:

    Sigh. Guilty of this way too often. You could post this message every week and I would probably, sadly, say the same thing.

  2. Thank you! It seems like such a simple, easy thing to remember, but it’s plenty simple to forget as well. I notice it a lot on social media, too — even on my blog. People come and friend you, or follow you, or “like” your blog post, but you realize they’re not really reading or listening — they’re just trying to get your attention so that you will go and listen to them. I’m trying to be a good listener online too … it takes a bit of focus and quiet. But, I’ll keep at it … thanks for the good reminder!

    • CultFit says:

      I struggle at times to be fully present while reading online, especially while at work 🙂 I had a conversation with a friend over the weekend and I broke my own little rule here.99.9% of the time I never play around with my phone – ever. Yet, I picked the worst time to check for a message while she was asking me something – I instantly regretted it and apologized.

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  4. Maryanne says:

    Amen to this! I’m one of the “good listener” types and have to agree people talk too much about themselves. Sometimes it can be very draining. I have an uncle I rarely call because the best part of the conversation is the first two minutes where we actually talk about things of substance then he gets onto a 45 minute non-stop monologue about whatever is eating him at the moment. Very hard to deal with.

    • CultFit says:

      You are so right, these situations can be very draining. They are also rather delicate to tap dance around and avoid. 🙂 Take care today and please be well!

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