:Envy:Posted: September 2, 2015 Filed under: Kindness, Meditation, Mindfulness, Yoga | Tags: Body Image, Compitition, Envy, Lose, Omaha, Win, yoga 8 Comments
If you choose to be fearless, then be fearlessly authentic not an imitation of someone you envy-
Walking into my final yoga class yesterday, a thought crossed my mind – That we live in a world where competition is valued above all else, and that personal achievement is directly tied to self-worth, in essence we have fallen prey to the belief that in every competition, every yoga class, every red light, text message battle … There are two possibilities – Better and Best.
When I was a young lad, maybe six, I arrived home from school one fall afternoon and innocently looked into my fathers eyes and asked if I was “the best?!?” The week prior at school, we had been learning about comparative words like “better” and “best,” and I was innocently curious if I was “the best” at something, perhaps burping, armpit farts or cleaning my room? My kind father calmly replied, “You’ll never be the best at anything son. The world is a magical place with like millions upon millions of people; it’s impossible to be the best. Just do your best, and you’ll be fine in life.
Focusing on continual self-improvement, rather than being the best at “something”, has allowed me to have a more realistic and insightful look into my true self.
good words to act on
Wow, your Dad is incredibly wise. I am putting that one in my journal today. Beautiful. Thank you so much for sharing.
Beating one’s own records is a more manageable goal than trying to continuously out-perform others, but I wonder, at what point does Self vs. Self competition begin to wreak an even more perverse havoc than a Self vs. Other contest? In team sports, outscoring the opponent is the primary goal to win the game.
As long as you make one more shot, one more field goal or touchdown, or homerun, you’re gold. But, let’s say doing one better than the other person is merely meets one’s own performance potential? When does that voice start encouraging one to do much better than the other guy, and thus, raise one’s own output “default” ?
I hope you had a wonderful weekend and that the start of this new week is greeting you gently – Baseball is interesting as a sport to measure performance in life, imagine being able to be average at .333, 3 out of ten at anything? 😉
Doing one’s best at any given moment, that’s what makes the most sense to me — even if a person is in the business of saving lives.
I completely agree 🙂
What’s with the final yoga class?!!
Final class in this studio …